Ok friends and faithful readers let’s hear your advice because this mommy is not ready for this phase of parenting! (Can’t they just stay all cute and innocent forever?)
So you would think with a 13 year old I would have already navigated through the privacy vs. parenting issue when it comes to friends and oh yeah GIRLS! That is however not the case. Buddy, my 13 year old, did I mention that he is now 13? A teenager? Yes I’m telling myself again and again because seriously I’m to YOUNG to have a 13 year old LOL! Anyway I digress, Buddy is more of a shy child when it comes to girls. I have always for seen him as being the picky one. He will decide who he likes and that will be who he befriends first and thinks about her in “that type of way” after he gets to know her.
So why am I posting this HELP! I need advice blog? Nick, my 10 year old is the one causing the extra gray hairs this week. Last week fresh out of summer camp he comes home with three phone numbers, two of which were GIRLS! Not just any girls, girls he likes! Ok, taking a long deep breath, not a problem crushes are cute right? But gone are the days when they said hi in class, sat next to each other at lunch, passed notes, and said this is my girlfriend. Along came the invention of the phone, and a few years later this thing called texting! No need anymore to talk all night, pass notes, or even see each other. Now we can TEXT!
So my 10 year old son has spent the last week texting his “girlfriend”. He said though to be a girlfriend he kinda needed to take her out on a date. DATE?! He is 10, you don’t go on dates at 10! I feel like I was standing at the side of a beautiful valley, looking out at the beautiful dandelions blowing in the breeze, a beautiful rainbow over head and SMACK a boulder quietly rolled down a hill and ran right over me, I didn’t hear or see it coming!
So what I would like to hear from you my fellow mommies and readers is how do you navigate through what is right and what is wrong when it comes to your children using mediums such as texting, email, facebook, etc. to talk to their friends and girlfriends! I would love to hear what rules you have set up, what precautions you have taken to ensure their safety, your thoughts on “their privacy”, and how you deal with their feelings and emotions when it comes to “love”!
So please let it all spill or feel free to email me at shibleysmiles(at)gmail(dot)com.