While parenting has it’s high points at times it just SUCKS to be one. This past week was one of those times. My husband and I chose to ground “the boys” due to some normal “didn’t listen to your parents” type of behavior. Nothing that any parent hasn’t gone through but something that needed some action. Since the offense was talked about a few times before we decided to make this a true grounding so they would think twice the next time, since telling them not to do something wasn’t working.
This means we took TV’s, computers, phones, XBox, iPods, basically all electronics away. No going outside or friends in. We have never been this strict before, so this was a new experience for all. They were not sent to their rooms and they could watch TV with the family but no TV in their room.
What I thought was going to be a major hard two weeks for us all has turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Don’t get me wrong the boys are still having withdrawals, especially Buddy. Not having his iPod has been a major issue for him. He wasn’t able to go on “a date” that he had planned for Saturday. This was the hardest for me to handle. Buddy is so quiet and I was so proud of him for planning something and asking a girl to the movies (it was still going to be a group of them), that it was hard for me to say no.
Despite the few withdrawals they have had I have never seen such fun in my house over a weekend. Nick spent the whole weekend with his father enjoying football and stupid guy shows laughing and joking. Buddy was forced to play board games with Nick and Honey which the two of them really enjoyed. Nick did some extra credit homework for school (because he could go outside to do it). The boys went with me shopping so they could get out of the house.
At the end of the day this choice to be strict and really get our point across…”Listen to your parents” has turned out to have some really awesome side effects. I hope at the end of the two weeks when the electronics are returned, and the boys can do things they normally do they will remember the “not so bad” time they had while being grounded and maybe continue to spend a little time with all of us.